The I'm busy was there, which isn't a lie, because everyone is. If you say yes to something you are saying no to something else. And that does mean you are busy.
But I think the best one was the I'll get back to you. It's the most honest and the most fair to yourself. Your commitments should be intentional decisions that you select by yourself as part of a process. Plan your commitments. This is the problem with someone springing something on you is it circumvents the best system for saying yes to things even when you should do them. I'll get back to you just puts it back into that process.
If you don't plan your commitments you don't own your life. And it could be they don't intend to wreck that system. They may be fine with you getting back to them. That may be the intent of them asking. And you don't know unless you try that route. The problem is there are people who don't have that kind of system and so they don't understand the idea of collecting all the asks placed on you and selecting which ones will happen. So we get nervous that the other party doesn't understand intentional planning. Then we break the useful pattern even for people who would be cool with it. Well fuck em. Someone has to teach them this is a reasonable way to work. Then all of us can work this way and life gets more sane for everyone. Now everyone gets to work with 70% accuracy on where they put their time instead of 20%.
It doesn't mean they aren't important. It just means everything is important. And important enough to be explicitly selected as something that is more important than something else in a fair way.
Nothing skips the conveyer belt.
Not that anyone cares but my todo list today is 104 long.
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I'm going to try to guess before I watch:
I can't think of any more right now so I'll just watch.
The I'm busy was there, which isn't a lie, because everyone is. If you say yes to something you are saying no to something else. And that does mean you are busy.
But I think the best one was the I'll get back to you. It's the most honest and the most fair to yourself. Your commitments should be intentional decisions that you select by yourself as part of a process. Plan your commitments. This is the problem with someone springing something on you is it circumvents the best system for saying yes to things even when you should do them. I'll get back to you just puts it back into that process.
If you don't plan your commitments you don't own your life. And it could be they don't intend to wreck that system. They may be fine with you getting back to them. That may be the intent of them asking. And you don't know unless you try that route. The problem is there are people who don't have that kind of system and so they don't understand the idea of collecting all the asks placed on you and selecting which ones will happen. So we get nervous that the other party doesn't understand intentional planning. Then we break the useful pattern even for people who would be cool with it. Well fuck em. Someone has to teach them this is a reasonable way to work. Then all of us can work this way and life gets more sane for everyone. Now everyone gets to work with 70% accuracy on where they put their time instead of 20%.
It doesn't mean they aren't important. It just means everything is important. And important enough to be explicitly selected as something that is more important than something else in a fair way.
Nothing skips the conveyer belt.
Not that anyone cares but my todo list today is 104 long.